Catastrophic events

Surviving a mass casualty event as a bystander

Being present at a mass casualty event, not as a first responder but as a bystander or civilian. A mass shooting, a bombing, a collapse, a disaster. Surviving something where many people around you did not. The randomness of it and the weight of survival.

Surviving a mass casualty event as a bystander means carrying scenes that were never supposed to be survivable, alongside the arbitrary fact of your own survival. Why you and not others is a question with no answer that still demands one. People here understand living with unanswerable questions. It is something of a specialty.

What can follow an experience like this

No two people carry the same experience the same way. These are some of the effects that people with this experience often describe. Having some of them, all of them, or none of them says nothing about how real what happened to you was.

PTSD After certain experiences, the brain can get stuck, replaying what happened through flashbacks, nightmares, or sudden intense reactions to things that remind you of it. Hypervigilance The nervous system that learned to scan for danger all the time. Insomnia Difficulty falling asleep. Depression Not just sadness. Startle response The nervous system calibrated to danger will flinch at sounds, movements, or surprises that others barely notice. Anxiety The background hum of dread that is always there. Survivor's guilt A persistent sense that you should not have survived, or should have done more, or that your survival came at someone else's expense. Loss of meaning The questions that will not resolve.

Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.

You do not have to carry this alone.

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