An effect of trauma
Startle response
The nervous system calibrated to danger will flinch at sounds, movements, or surprises that others barely notice. A door closing. Someone walking up behind you. A car backfiring. The startle that is bigger than the situation warrants, that happens before thought, that sometimes embarrasses you or exhausts you. It is the body staying ready for a threat that may not be coming anymore.
The jump comes before thought, which is the whole point of it, a reflex tuned by history to beat danger to the punch. Embarrassment about it misunderstands it. Your reflexes learned from real events. They can slowly tune back down, and in the meantime, nobody here treats a startle as anything but what it is.
It can sound like
If any of those sentences live in your head too, you are in good company here.
Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.
You do not have to carry this alone.
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