Loss and grief

Losing someone to addiction

Watching someone you love be consumed by addiction. Losing them slowly to it, or suddenly through it. The particular grief of loving someone whose addiction made them someone you did not always recognize. Including losses where they are still alive but the person you knew feels gone.

Loving someone through addiction means grieving in installments. The person they were, the person they might have been, the person who occasionally surfaces and disappears again. Whether they are gone or still living, the loss is real and largely invisible to others. People here understand mourning someone who is technically still here. It is one of the loneliest griefs there is.

What can follow an experience like this

No two people carry the same experience the same way. These are some of the effects that people with this experience often describe. Having some of them, all of them, or none of them says nothing about how real what happened to you was.

Depression Not just sadness. Shame Not guilt about something you did. Prolonged grief Grief that did not follow the expected path. Loneliness This is different from pulling away. Recent grief Not all grief is stuck or complicated. Anxious attachment Holding on hard. Trust issues Trust that was broken, repeatedly, by people who were supposed to be safe. Anxiety The background hum of dread that is always there.

Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.

You do not have to carry this alone.

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