Loss and grief

Losing a close friend

The death of someone who was not family but was family. Friends whose loss is not always given the same space as family grief, whose absence leaves a hole that others sometimes fail to recognize as significant.

The world has no official role for a grieving friend. No leave from work, no seat reserved at the service. But friendship can be the deepest relationship a person has, and losing it deserves full mourning. If people around you failed to grasp what this loss was, people here will not. Family is not the only love that counts.

What can follow an experience like this

No two people carry the same experience the same way. These are some of the effects that people with this experience often describe. Having some of them, all of them, or none of them says nothing about how real what happened to you was.

Depression Not just sadness. Loneliness This is different from pulling away. Recent grief Not all grief is stuck or complicated. Insomnia Difficulty falling asleep. Identity disturbance Not being able to answer simple questions about yourself. Prolonged grief Grief that did not follow the expected path. Social withdrawal A retreat inward that can feel like protection, and often is. Loss of meaning The questions that will not resolve.

Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.

You do not have to carry this alone.

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