Loss and grief

Losing a partner or spouse

The death of a romantic partner or spouse. The particular grief of losing the person you built your life around or planned your future with. Including losses that came suddenly and losses that came after long illness.

Losing a partner takes the person and the architecture of your days at the same time. The habits, the plans, the half of every decision. People often expect the acute grief to be the whole of it, but the rebuilding of an entire daily life is its own long labor. Nobody here will ask if you are over it. That question does not get asked in these rooms.

What can follow an experience like this

No two people carry the same experience the same way. These are some of the effects that people with this experience often describe. Having some of them, all of them, or none of them says nothing about how real what happened to you was.

Insomnia Difficulty falling asleep. Depression Not just sadness. Anxiety The background hum of dread that is always there. Identity disturbance Not being able to answer simple questions about yourself. Prolonged grief Grief that did not follow the expected path. Loss of meaning The questions that will not resolve. Exhaustion This is not tiredness. Loneliness This is different from pulling away.

Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.

You do not have to carry this alone.

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