An effect of trauma
Anxious attachment
Holding on hard. Needing to know where you stand, repeatedly. Reading tone and delay for evidence that someone is going off you. Contacting more when you sense distance, then hating that you did. Struggling to let a relationship simply sit there without checking on it. When the people who were supposed to stay did not, closeness stops feeling like safety and starts feeling like something you have to keep hold of.
Holding on this tightly is not neediness, it is what happens when your early evidence said that people leave without warning. The grip loosens as new evidence accumulates, slowly, from people who stay. That is exactly what these rooms are for, and plenty of people here have felt it change.
It can sound like
If any of those sentences live in your head too, you are in good company here.
Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.
You do not have to carry this alone.
Bridge of Hope Recovery is a free, anonymous, peer-led fellowship for trauma survivors. Meetings run throughout the week by phone, by video, and in person. No cost, no waitlist, no one asking for your real name.