Institutional and systemic failure

Being failed or harmed by the child welfare system

Being placed in foster care, group homes, or institutional settings that were unsafe. Being removed from family without adequate cause or support. Having CPS involved in your life in ways that caused more harm than they prevented. Being a child who needed protection and finding that the system meant to provide it made things worse.

The system that took you in when family could not, or should not, was supposed to be the safety net. When placements, caseworkers, or group homes caused new harm, the betrayal ran deeper for coming from the rescuers. Children of that system often grow up feeling processed rather than protected. You deserved protection. Getting paperwork instead was the system's failure, never yours.

What can follow an experience like this

No two people carry the same experience the same way. These are some of the effects that people with this experience often describe. Having some of them, all of them, or none of them says nothing about how real what happened to you was.

Anxious attachment Holding on hard. Hypervigilance The nervous system that learned to scan for danger all the time. C-PTSD When trauma happened repeatedly, over a long time, or at the hands of people who were supposed to care for you, the effects go deeper than a single event. Trust issues Trust that was broken, repeatedly, by people who were supposed to be safe. Shame Not guilt about something you did. Depression Not just sadness. Identity disturbance Not being able to answer simple questions about yourself. Anxiety The background hum of dread that is always there.

Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.

You do not have to carry this alone.

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