Physical violence

Watching someone else be physically attacked or beaten

Being present when another person was being hurt. A stranger on a street, someone you knew, someone nearby. Whether you understood what was happening in the moment, whether you did something or could not move, whether it lasted seconds or longer. The witnessing itself is a wound, separate from whatever happened next.

Seeing someone beaten stays in the body of the person who watched. You may replay it, wonder what you should have done, or feel like your reaction is oversized because it did not happen to you. Witnessing violence is its own experience of violence. It entered through your eyes instead of your skin, and it still counts.

What can follow an experience like this

No two people carry the same experience the same way. These are some of the effects that people with this experience often describe. Having some of them, all of them, or none of them says nothing about how real what happened to you was.

PTSD After certain experiences, the brain can get stuck, replaying what happened through flashbacks, nightmares, or sudden intense reactions to things that remind you of it. Hypervigilance The nervous system that learned to scan for danger all the time. Insomnia Difficulty falling asleep. Bystander guilt The specific guilt that comes from having witnessed something and not stopped it. Secondary trauma Your nervous system does not always distinguish between being the person something happened to and being the person who watched it happen to someone else. Emotional numbing Not depression exactly. Startle response The nervous system calibrated to danger will flinch at sounds, movements, or surprises that others barely notice. Freeze response When the nervous system learned that neither fighting nor fleeing was possible, some people learned to go still.

Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.

You do not have to carry this alone.

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