War, conflict, and organized violence

Carrying moral injury from things you did or witnessed during service or conflict

Being haunted not just by what was done to you but by what you did, what you ordered, what you failed to stop, or what you witnessed without intervening. The particular weight of actions taken in a context of war or organized violence that conflict with your own values and sense of who you are.

Carrying what you did, ordered, or failed to stop is a different weight from carrying what was done to you, and it responds to different medicine. Punishing yourself indefinitely is not the medicine. Being honest about it among people who will not flinch or excuse, and slowly rebuilding trust with your own values, is closer. That work happens here.

What can follow an experience like this

No two people carry the same experience the same way. These are some of the effects that people with this experience often describe. Having some of them, all of them, or none of them says nothing about how real what happened to you was.

Insomnia Difficulty falling asleep. Emotional numbing Not depression exactly. Depression Not just sadness. Shame Not guilt about something you did. Survivor's guilt A persistent sense that you should not have survived, or should have done more, or that your survival came at someone else's expense. Addiction Addiction is not a moral failure. Suicidal thoughts Thoughts about not existing anymore. Social withdrawal A retreat inward that can feel like protection, and often is.

Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.

You do not have to carry this alone.

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