Emotional and psychological harm

Being subjected to sustained verbal abuse or screaming

Living with someone who screamed at you, raged at you, or used words and volume as weapons on a regular basis. The way the body braces when a voice gets loud. The hypervigilance that comes from never knowing when it will start.

A raised voice can put a survivor's whole body on alert years after the screaming stopped. If you flinch at shouting, go quiet when others argue, or leave the room when volume climbs, that is history talking, not weakness. Your body learned that loud meant dangerous. It was right at the time, and it deserves gentleness while it learns otherwise.

What can follow an experience like this

No two people carry the same experience the same way. These are some of the effects that people with this experience often describe. Having some of them, all of them, or none of them says nothing about how real what happened to you was.

Hypervigilance The nervous system that learned to scan for danger all the time. C-PTSD When trauma happened repeatedly, over a long time, or at the hands of people who were supposed to care for you, the effects go deeper than a single event. Insomnia Difficulty falling asleep. Shame Not guilt about something you did. Startle response The nervous system calibrated to danger will flinch at sounds, movements, or surprises that others barely notice. Anxiety The background hum of dread that is always there. Conflict avoidance For many survivors conflict is not just uncomfortable. Sensory overload Sound that other people barely register arriving like an alarm.

Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.

You do not have to carry this alone.

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