Emotional and psychological harm

Being humiliated publicly or privately in a sustained way

Being deliberately embarrassed, mocked, or shamed by someone with regularity and intent. In private where no one could see, or in front of others. Humiliation used as a tool to keep you small.

Deliberate humiliation is designed to shrink you, and it tends to succeed for a while. Long after, you may find yourself avoiding attention, deflecting praise, or bracing whenever eyes turn your way. Wanting to stay unseen was a reasonable response to being made a spectacle. So is deciding, slowly and on your own schedule, to be seen again.

What can follow an experience like this

No two people carry the same experience the same way. These are some of the effects that people with this experience often describe. Having some of them, all of them, or none of them says nothing about how real what happened to you was.

Hypervigilance The nervous system that learned to scan for danger all the time. Depression Not just sadness. Shame Not guilt about something you did. Social withdrawal A retreat inward that can feel like protection, and often is. Loneliness This is different from pulling away. C-PTSD When trauma happened repeatedly, over a long time, or at the hands of people who were supposed to care for you, the effects go deeper than a single event. People-pleasing Anticipating what others need before they ask. Anxiety The background hum of dread that is always there.

Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.

You do not have to carry this alone.

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