An effect of trauma
Sexual dysfunction
Trauma changes the body's relationship with physical intimacy. Numbness, pain, shutdown, disconnection, involuntary responses that feel confusing or distressing. This is distinct from not wanting intimacy emotionally. It is the body having its own response independent of what you consciously want. The nervous system learned to protect you in certain situations and it does not always distinguish between threat and safety. Your body is not broken. It is responding to a history it has not finished processing.
The body runs its own protection program around intimacy, and it does not always consult you first. Numbness, shutdown, or responses that contradict what you consciously want are the nervous system defending old ground. Nothing about you is broken. Bodies renegotiate safety on their own timetable, and patience with yours is not a consolation prize. It is the method.
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If any of those sentences live in your head too, you are in good company here.
Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.
You do not have to carry this alone.
Bridge of Hope Recovery is a free, anonymous, peer-led fellowship for trauma survivors. Meetings run throughout the week by phone, by video, and in person. No cost, no waitlist, no one asking for your real name.