An effect of trauma

Problems with authority or people in power

The original experiences with authority figures, parents, teachers, institutions, abusers, shaping the automatic response to anyone who holds power. Automatic compliance that bypasses your own judgment. Automatic defiance that is not always chosen. Fear of people in positions of power. Difficulty functioning in hierarchical environments. The past showing up in the present every time someone has authority over you.

One more thing worth saying plainly: this began as protection. At some point it was the thing that got you through. If it is still running now that the danger has passed, that is not a flaw in you. It is proof of how hard something once worked to keep you safe.

It can sound like

“I have a hard time being told what to do.” “Authority figures make me afraid.” “I either completely comply or totally rebel.” “I cannot navigate power dynamics normally.”

If any of those sentences live in your head too, you are in good company here.

Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.

You do not have to carry this alone.

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