An effect of trauma
Falling into the same role in every relationship
The role you played in your family of origin follows you. The caretaker who takes care of everyone. The scapegoat who gets blamed for everything. The invisible one nobody notices. The problem child. The peacemaker. The one who holds it all together. These roles formed because they were necessary, because they earned you safety or belonging or at least a known place in the system. The problem is that you keep playing them in relationships that did not assign them, in situations that do not require them, with people who did not ask for them.
It can sound like
If any of those sentences live in your head too, you are in good company here.
Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.
You do not have to carry this alone.
Bridge of Hope Recovery is a free, anonymous, peer-led fellowship for trauma survivors. Meetings run throughout the week by phone, by video, and in person. No cost, no waitlist, no one asking for your real name.