Physical violence

Watching someone die through violence or sudden injury

Being there when someone died in a way that was sudden, violent, or traumatic. Seeing something that cannot be unseen. Whether or not you knew the person, whether or not you understood what was happening as it happened, what your nervous system recorded that day did not simply go away when it was over.

Watching a violent or sudden death puts an image in you that does not obey the usual rules of memory. It can return uninvited, vivid and wrong, years later. Nobody walks away from seeing that unchanged, and needing help to carry it is not weakness. It is what any honest nervous system would ask for.

What can follow an experience like this

No two people carry the same experience the same way. These are some of the effects that people with this experience often describe. Having some of them, all of them, or none of them says nothing about how real what happened to you was.

PTSD After certain experiences, the brain can get stuck, replaying what happened through flashbacks, nightmares, or sudden intense reactions to things that remind you of it. Hypervigilance The nervous system that learned to scan for danger all the time. Insomnia Difficulty falling asleep. Survivor's guilt A persistent sense that you should not have survived, or should have done more, or that your survival came at someone else's expense. Prolonged grief Grief that did not follow the expected path. Loss of meaning The questions that will not resolve. Recent grief Not all grief is stuck or complicated. Bystander guilt The specific guilt that comes from having witnessed something and not stopped it.

Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.

You do not have to carry this alone.

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