Neglect

Nobody being emotionally present for you as a child

Parents or caregivers who were physically there but emotionally absent. Nobody who asked how you were, noticed when you were struggling, or made you feel like your inner life mattered.

This one is hard to explain to people who did not live it, because from the outside everything looked fine. There was a roof, there were meals, and there was nobody home in the way that mattered. If you grew up talking to a wall that occasionally made dinner, you know how lonely a full house can be, and you will not have to justify that here.

What can follow an experience like this

No two people carry the same experience the same way. These are some of the effects that people with this experience often describe. Having some of them, all of them, or none of them says nothing about how real what happened to you was.

C-PTSD When trauma happened repeatedly, over a long time, or at the hands of people who were supposed to care for you, the effects go deeper than a single event. Emotional numbing Not depression exactly. Shame Not guilt about something you did. Depression Not just sadness. Identity disturbance Not being able to answer simple questions about yourself. Avoidant attachment The wall that goes up when someone tries to get close. Hyper-independence You can give endlessly. Loneliness This is different from pulling away.

Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.

You do not have to carry this alone.

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