An effect of trauma

Ending up in the same harmful situations again

The relationship that looks different at the start but ends up in the same place. The dynamic that keeps repeating across different people and contexts. The situations that seem to find you. Repetition compulsion is not self destruction. It is the nervous system returning to familiar territory because familiar, even when painful, is at least known. It is also sometimes an unconscious attempt to resolve something that was never resolved.

It can sound like

“I keep ending up in the same situations.” “My relationships follow the same pattern.” “I keep attracting the same type of person.” “I do not know how I got here again.”

If any of those sentences live in your head too, you are in good company here.

Experiences this often follows

Effects do not come from nowhere. These are some of the experiences that people who carry this one often describe. You do not need to have been through any of them for what you feel to be real.

Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.

You do not have to carry this alone.

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