Physical violence

Being physically targeted, bullied, or assaulted by peers repeatedly

Being the one who got physically targeted by peers, over and over. Pushed, hit, jumped, hurt. Not a single incident but a pattern. Learning to dread certain hallways, certain times of day, certain people. Physical bullying that was sustained enough to reorganize how you moved through the world.

Sustained physical bullying rearranges a childhood around avoidance, and adults too often filed it under kids being kids. Dreading the bus, the hallway, the walk home, that was not a phase. It was living under threat during the years you were supposed to be learning the world was safe, and its effects deserve to be taken as seriously as any other violence.

What can follow an experience like this

No two people carry the same experience the same way. These are some of the effects that people with this experience often describe. Having some of them, all of them, or none of them says nothing about how real what happened to you was.

Hypervigilance The nervous system that learned to scan for danger all the time. Trust issues Trust that was broken, repeatedly, by people who were supposed to be safe. Depression Not just sadness. Shame Not guilt about something you did. People-pleasing Anticipating what others need before they ask. Anxiety The background hum of dread that is always there. Fight response When the nervous system learned that threat was coming, some people learned to meet it head on. Social withdrawal A retreat inward that can feel like protection, and often is.

Nothing on this page is a diagnosis, and nothing here decides what is wrong with you, because nothing is wrong with you. Something happened to you. This page exists so that when you are ready, you can find people who understand it from the inside.

You do not have to carry this alone.

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